I don’t drink alcohol. I don’t go to pubs or bars. The only place I see men is at gyms. I see so many every day. There’s prolonged eye contact, hungry glances, I get scared and look away and continue my workout. This avoidance is becoming unbearable.
Hm, well this really depends on what you are after. If you really are just looking for a no strings attached sexual encounter, there are places where it is socially acceptable to flirt and find people, and those places are clubs, pubs and bars. I’m also not a fan of alcohol and noise, I get what you mean.
Another option which could work for you is Tinder or a similar app, a lot of men specifically say in their bio what they’re up to and even those who don’t say much will very likely move fast and ask you out. The chat can be a great way to break the ice. Always meet first at a cafe or dinner, don’t walk blindly to anyone’s house! I find dates from apps tend to presume you are already ok and into them so they are likely to make a move on you (and it will be a pretty obvious move) much sooner than someone you met elsewhere. Always remember it is perfectly fine to turn down any of these moves/offers which is why you should always meet first in a public place.
It’s understandable a guy won’t flirt with you at the gym. It could be easily considered creeper behaviour and that’s just asking for trouble. But, if there is someone you like keep your mind open and smile, smiling gives men a bit of confidence towards you.
I’d definitely go with tinder etc. - as a woman you have all the deciding power. Just dont swipe the hottest person you see and expect them not to be a piece of shit 🙂
Try finding more social hobbies. If the only place you’re seeing men at is the gym, of course you’re going to get most of them looking at you like they want to pick you up with their face.
Your second paragraph is beautiful, thank you.
To the last line in your first paragraph,
I don’t drink alcohol. I don’t go to pubs or bars. The only place I see men is at gyms. I see so many every day. There’s prolonged eye contact, hungry glances, I get scared and look away and continue my workout. This avoidance is becoming unbearable.
Hm, well this really depends on what you are after. If you really are just looking for a no strings attached sexual encounter, there are places where it is socially acceptable to flirt and find people, and those places are clubs, pubs and bars. I’m also not a fan of alcohol and noise, I get what you mean.
Another option which could work for you is Tinder or a similar app, a lot of men specifically say in their bio what they’re up to and even those who don’t say much will very likely move fast and ask you out. The chat can be a great way to break the ice. Always meet first at a cafe or dinner, don’t walk blindly to anyone’s house! I find dates from apps tend to presume you are already ok and into them so they are likely to make a move on you (and it will be a pretty obvious move) much sooner than someone you met elsewhere. Always remember it is perfectly fine to turn down any of these moves/offers which is why you should always meet first in a public place.
It’s understandable a guy won’t flirt with you at the gym. It could be easily considered creeper behaviour and that’s just asking for trouble. But, if there is someone you like keep your mind open and smile, smiling gives men a bit of confidence towards you.
I’d definitely go with tinder etc. - as a woman you have all the deciding power. Just dont swipe the hottest person you see and expect them not to be a piece of shit 🙂
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Try finding more social hobbies. If the only place you’re seeing men at is the gym, of course you’re going to get most of them looking at you like they want to pick you up with their face.
Unless that isn’t the problem?