Checked into a partial hospitalization program last week because my social anxiety and agoraphobia got too big to manage alone.
The past few days have been perhaps the first I’ve felt joy and love in their full forms 😸
that’s HUGE news! Any particular highlights or self-discoveries that you’re excited to share?
It’s just good to know true joy and exist in my body more often. It was really heavy for so long. I made small talk at a lab appointment prior to and at a haircut following group today.
The hair stylist ended up being a specialist in sensory issues so it was very nice to have that kind of chill, mindful haircut. I nearly fell asleep!
Oh! And I’m doing all this while dog tired from insomnia but I’m in a pretty good mood and getting more sleep every night 😸
That’s amazing! Both of those can be so hard when small talk feels impossible. I have a more mild social anxiety, and sometimes I forget how much one stupid small talk convo can make me feel so happy and positive. Glad you’re doing well ❤️
I’m so happy and so so proud for you RadioRat!!! I know how difficult it is to take that first step, and I am so happy to read that you’re feeling joy ❤️
Not bad.
I’ve reached the point where, as a contrarian, it’s time for me to speak less about politics online, so I started adding in filters to my Mastodon feed, and I like that my feed is less doomscrolling now.
Work is going fine, that’s about it.
The cat is cute. Work is stressful. It’s too damned hot (I hate summer). I should read more – I miss having the time.
my dad and his wife visited for a few days, so that was fun. went to a couple of museums, breweries, etc.
RAGBRAI is less than two weeks away!!! i gotta get more riding in. i did get my new tires installed yesterday, since i noticed my old ones were looking a little worse for the wear. was hoping to go for a ride then, but storms rolled in and ruined my plans.
echo (border collie) is showing some signs of generalized anxiety—pacing, whining, barking, and generally restless. i’m not sure if it’s because her routine was upset with family visiting + fireworks + storms, but i’ll probably get an opinion from the vet. i did ask for some better anti-anxiety meds for the sound events, since the xanax wasn’t doing a whole lot, even administered pre-sound.
spent a lot of time reconfiguring my budget with actual since YNAB is hiking up their prices again. still pissed they did away with their promised “lifetime” subscription price.
How is actual with direct bank imports? Are you in the US or EU?
Guess who got their computer back??
Finally after having to send the motherboard I had bought back that I had unintentionally broken the pins on, it’s together and back at my house and I’m so grateful. I’m glad I had a laptop to lean on but I hated it all the same.
It was a bit of a struggle because the drive with Windows on it wouldn’t work for some reason. After messing around with it, I got it to function, but I need to find the time to wipe everything and start over with Bazzite and Windows dual boot. That’s a project for later me, though.
I got help for my dog’s vet bills, as I’m drowning in money issues currently. It’s not a huge chunk of money and I’m spacing their visits out, but Bowser is behind on immunizations and they both need annual checkups. I feel like a really bad pet owner because I’m disabled and don’t work, yet have two dogs, but I treat them the best I can. And originally, circumstances were different and I could afford everything much more easily.
But things are okay at this very moment. I hope everyone else has a fabulous week.
Moving delayed again due to weather. Also honestly I’m not sure why family keeps offering to help me move. Their vehicle has cargo space, sure, but it’s one vehicle between five adults, and very few of them know how to drive so that really limits when it’s actually available for me to borrow.
They’re just gonna have to evict me and throw all my shit down the stairs and break it like they do with my neighbors.
Had to cancel an art collab I’ll never have another chance to do, because I live in one apartment and my computer is in the other.
Skin infection isn’t going away but my insurance rejects every test I get, so I’m done trying.
Had either COVID or the flu, but it was the week of a major US holiday and they were disciplining people for calling out, so I worked all week. Got publicly shamed for my terrible metrics while I was too phlegmy to speak.
Basically, next week HAS to be good.
ETA at least I’m back at the gym, although I feel terrible after being out for two weeks. I was so sick I was just working and sleeping for a while.
The gastritis is… bad. And I’m tired of working through the pain. But my friend made me dinner this evening which was amazing because I’m so tired of making food that’s suitable for me to eat.
Never take ibuprofen on an empty stomach.
I’m sorry, that sounds miserable.
My primary instance is experiencing a DDOS attack, so I am on my backup account for a while.
I’m wondering what that’s like. Can you not even connect any more? How many connections are made per sec and can’t you just ip block them temporarily?
I just had some vacation time, which was SO nice. Today, I was supposed to go back to work, and the office experienced a major issue with our servers, which could take up to a week to resolve. So I might get a second paid week off, which would be one heck of a nice vacation.
For hobby stuff, I’ve still been livestreaming (mostly elden ring dlc), and people are coming around more often lately, which is neat. I’m starting to see two or more people show up, which is mind-blowing. I’m excited but also nervous because that could eventually be way more people if this pace keeps up. I feel like I’m kinda just fartin around, so I’m not really sure what to do as things grow. But I assume I’ll have some time to ease into things. It’s neat!
Finally finished fixing bugs for an unofficial update of a fan game that I was modding. So pretty good.
Back to work. With the US holiday being essentially a 4day weekend, plus getting back into town from a weeklong biz trip the week prior, didn’t do a whole lot of anything last week, other than sleeping and gaming and occasionally looking at email/Teams… So it’s a bit hard to get back into it.
I think I’ve settled on a new apartment in my soon-to-be new city. It’s expensive. Parking alone is like $120/mo (street parking requires a city permit). But it is what it is. It has what I want, particularly being close to a subway stop. Maybe I pay out the nose for the first year, then once I have my bearings, learn the area, I can find something cheaper elsewhere.
Dealing with apartments is a pain in the ass. I live in an apartment now and have lived in a few different apartments for the last 9yrs. So it’s not like I have no experience. But god, some of these places makes it very difficult to talk with a human. No, I don’t want to chat or text or have a phone call with a chatbot or AI assistant. No I don’t want to start the application process online before I get my questions answered. I just have a few questions; call me, please. Luckily someone – a real someone – finally called me today.
Also, what the fuck is an “administrative fee” at an apartment, and why is it so high? I get having an application fee of like $50. I get needing a deposit. But a $500 “administrative fee?” Have never come across that before. And this isn’t the only place I’m looking at that has it. As always, just another way to wring money out of folks.
Hopefully I’ll have this all settled within the next week or two.
Otherwise, back to FFXIV. Taking my time with the new Dawntrail expansion.
Parking alone is like $120/mo
any chance you can give up the car? $120/month is outrageous to me. if my city had better public transit (subways!!!), i’d be all over ditching my car.
Definitely outrageous. In my current city, I’ve only ever paid for parking access at one place. And it was only like $50/mo. Which I still fought! I think only in the final year did they actually start making me pay for it, but at a reduced rate, like $25/mo.
I’ve definitely been thinking about getting rid of my car. I did ask the leasing agent if monthly parking was annual commitment or not. And they said it’s not. Or rather, it could be easily removed from the lease with no lease-change fee.
So maybe I stick with the car for the first 6mo to a year, learn how to get around, explore, see if I can go carless and fully rely on the public transit system (which I’d done before over in Chicago). I’d hate to get rid of the car ASAP and then realize that I do need it more than I thought.
Car is not even 4yrs old and it’s held it’s value remarkably well, according to KBB. So I’d potentially get like 95% (or more) of my money back if I did sell.
i mean, i think paying for parking should happen, especially in places with decent public transit, but wowee.
I live in SF and 120/month would be cheap compared to what it is up here lol
another place i’d probably do without a car, if at all possible. i went car free in seattle for a year, another three years in athens, georgia. wasn’t until i moved to atlanta (and later the city i’m in now) that i had to go back to owning one.
Oh for sure. Like in my current city (Kansas City), public transportation is so pathetic. A person has to have a car here. There’s just no way to survive without one. And I live in the city, in the urban core.
While I fought paying even $50/mo for parking on apt property, I always thought it was funny when people complained about the price for parking garages/lots downtown. At one point not that long ago, it was like $2-5 on nights/weekends. There are barely any parking meters around. And, as far as I know, there’s no parking permits required for street parking. And it’s plentiful. But people still bitched and moaned about “not enough free parking.” Because they didn’t want to pay and/or have to walk more than a block from their car to their destination. Sheesh.
But in my soon-to-be new city, DC, it looks like someone could get away without having a car? I won’t be living in DC proper, but pretty close. So I’ll see.
I think if I had to pay the city to park on the streets, I’d strangely be more OK with that? But having to pay my landlord for parking privileges seems ridiculous because I’ll already be paying them out the nose for rent and such.
Oh well, such is the price for owning a car.
D.C. Metro runs from about 5am-midnight on weekdays, but on weekends it doesn’t start until 7. In the suburbs, you can drive to a commuter parking lot and leave your car for the workday. You are generally expected to drive your car home each night from there and they DO charge a pretty serious fee (especially given that you’d also be paying for the commute).
Metro offers premium, guaranteed parking at 35 rail stations for a monthly fee of either $45.00 or $65.00 (plus the regular daily parking rate, which varies by station).
Finishing up an Alaskan cruise. This is the complete opposite of how I usually travel and likely something I will never do again. That said, it has overall been an incredible time with some wonderful companions.
Tomorrow, we will pick up my friend’s ashes at a post office in Anchorage, and the next day we will head to Kenai Fjords National Park. He made it to 49 states, so we’re bringing him to the 50th.
How did it go? We did something like that with my grandmother’s ashes. It was good in a bittersweet way. I hope it worked out well for you, too!
Hey, it went really well, thanks for asking. Found a nice spot a little off the trail to sit a bit and take our time with it. I feel like no one talks about how much ashes stick to things. I’m pretty sure I still have some bits of Corbin on my backpack, but I’m good with that. 😂
That is such an Alaskan setting with all that glacial till and silt clouding the waters grey and thick, and making rocky ‘sandbars’. Beautiful and raw.
A few weeks ago I posted here that I was about to go to Open Sauce. I was too tired to give an update right when I got back, but I’m here now and boy, it was incredible. Best convention ever. There was a Smash Bros tournament right as you walked in the door. There was a tesla coil music setup with a Faraday cage that they picked audience members to get up and dance in. There was a booth selling 3D printed Spiderman style magnetic grappling hooks. There was a hexacopter with a 6-foot wingspan. There was a booth demonstrating a piece of open source software designed for flowgraph/node-based procedural generation of vector graphics and written in Rust, thus hitting every single one of my interests simultaneously. There were multiple people walking around in fursuits. There was a celebrity go-kart race where the audience got infrared laser-tag blasters which would make the cars slow down, which I promptly cloned using my Flipper Zero and proceeded to wreak havoc as best I could.
I do not think there was a single allistic person in that building. It was glorious.
I had the time of my life just letting my ADHD carry me from booth to booth of hobbyists showing off cool shit they had made and asking about this and that and how they put it together. It was WAY bigger than Open Sauce 2023 and easily 10 times cooler.
Anyway, I mention that because I met one of my favorite YouTube creators (Zack Freedman of Voidstar Lab) face to face while I was there and he gave me this 3D printed poker chip with his channel logo and a QR code that my phone refuses to scan but that I’m told goes to the Rickroll. He uploaded a video today explaining how he made them, pointing out several subtle design flaws that I never would’ve noticed but that are going to bug me forever now, and mentioned that in every single chip there was an NFC tag. I got the chip from its pride of place on my desk, held it to the back of my phone, and sure enough, was taken (via a Bitly link) to an unlisted video on the Voidstar Lab channel – uploaded earlier that day! Open Sauce was weeks ago. Now I’m also bugged by not knowing what would’ve happened if I’d thought to put the tag in the same pocket as my phone while we were there.
If you meant what’s been happening to me this week, well, not much to report. I’m still off school, had some fun going swimming, got a little self-conscious when I saw 8-year-olds with better upper body definition than me. Finally got back into gaming now that I can do that without feeling guilty about blowing off my homework. I’ve been playing this really great indie metroidvania called Ghost 1.0 which I could gush about for ages (great gameplay, great humor, really neat game mechanic where you can leave your body and possess enemies which they make fantastic use of in puzzles)… but I mostly just wanted to talk about Open Sauce and tag the people who asked me to report back: @rozwud@beehaw.org @megaman_EXE@beehaw.org
all in all things have been going pretty great!
That sounds absolutely awesome! I would love to go sometime in the future. It seems like one of the best conventions around right now. Thanks for sharing how it went!
So cool! Thanks so much for the write up!
Don’t feel bad about your physique, children that play and stay active are freaking shredded!
Not great.
To be honest, I feel quite hopeless.
Just a lot of bullshit not in my control that’s taking its toll.
I hope your circumstances improve.
Thanks very much, I appreciate that.
I hope the same thing but in the meantime, just gonna try to practice some mindfulness and let it flow.
I’m sorry to hear that! My job has made me feel like that lately so I can SORTA relate. Any particular details you want to rant about?
Thanks for the kind words!
Unfortunately, it’s a little too complicated and I think I just need a break from most stuff, including the ranting, lol.
Thanks for asking, though. Really appreciate it.